Hi,
So today I want to talk about dating yourself.
I think that as part of the #FOMO (pls don't kill me) generation we have a a tendency to want to constantly surround ourselves with others so as to not miss out on anything. But its just as rewarding spending time with yourself and it doesn't always have to be taking a personal day and staying in bed. It could be taking a personal day and seeing a film or going to a museum, gallery or exhibition or even just taking yourself out for a meal or a walk.
Dating yourself is honestly one of the best things you can do for yourself, especially in times of extreme stress and uncertainty, being on your own can really help to clear things up. It was whilst I took myself on a dinner date that I realised that I wanted to do my masters after I graduate. It was whilst I was at the cinemas on my own I realised that I wasn't doing anything to fight my demons I was just burying them.
I think going to events, exhibitions, movies, restaurants and even concerts alone can be so amazing. Theres something about being able to go at your own pace and experience something on your own terms thats so freeing and liberating. Just allowing yourself to reflect and really experience something and just having the space to enjoy your own company is a luxury some of us never even knew we had.
Next month I'm going to a concert by myself, I'm considering going to Afro Punk by myself and I'm even planning a solo trip abroad to Paris for next summer. (IJN I will have the funds lol) These are all things that I honestly just never thought I would do and now I can't wait. I even have a playlist that I love to listen to when I'm going to places by myself, its filled with ambient sounds and songs that make me genuinely excited to go out explore and reflect.
In todays society we always seem to be defined by those we surround ourselves with rather than who we are. Its all about how many people we can tag to make life affirming moments seem more significant. Don't get me wrong, friends are great and having people who you genuinely love to hang out with is great, but from time to time don't be afraid to date yourself. To get to know yourself. To treat yourself.
So next time you start to feel overwhelmed or stressed or just want some alone time, don't be afraid to just go out and experience the world for yourself.
Until next time,
Natalie x
You are awesome. I blogged about this breifly in my personal blog on Livejournal just a few days ago. Ny public blog is on beauty and skincare. I completely agree with you on this 100%. As we get older I think we're starting to realise that you don't need company to enjoy yourself or experience different things. Half the time we invite someone to be with use because we don't want to be judged for being on our own instead of actually desiring their company. Massive kudos to you x
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Thank you so much, that really means a lot! Yeah its so important to be secure in yourself and your own company. I'll definitely check out your blog, thanks again :)
DeleteReally great post. I'm an introvert so I get a lot of my energy from alone time but I'm still very self conscious about doing social things alone. I'm going to take a leaf out of your book and just commit to it. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI totally get you, I'm an introvert too and I find that going out and doing activities on my own is a better way to recharge than staying in all day with netflix (though i do love to do that!) I'm so happy, I promise you won't regret it and let me know how it goes! Thank you so much for reading and commenting!
DeleteI can't get to grips with this #FOMO business. I miss out on so much LOL, but I still breath and thankfully live the next day, things come and go so quickly, it's nice to enjoy things with friends and others, I understand that but being alone and enjoying your own company, independence is priceless. Being able to say I'm doing this today, by myself, for as long as I want and how I want is a dream & a privilege. So good on you girl!
ReplyDeleteBreathe* - typo. Drives me nuts. Hope Paris becomes a reality.
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